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The permission you're waiting for doesn't exist
Published 3 days ago • 4 min read
Hey Reader
A couple of weeks ago I had the honor of being on the Fearless Artist Podcast, and having a terrific conversation with pianist and co-founder, Michelle Lynne. Some of you might remember her as 2025 guest speaker here at 360!
Within the first few minutes, we were already into it deep. With our shared commitment to the success of music professionals, and knowing that there's often so much uncertainty and self-doubt, I wanted to share one powerful reminder. It's for ALL of us, beginning stage career, or decades in. It can center you when you step on stage. It can ground you when you go to make that vulnerable social post. It's something I wish I knew when I was starting out:
You have more to share than you have to prove.
As we move through Women's History Month and reflect on this year's International Women's Day theme of "Give to Gain," I keep coming back to this idea of sharing versus proving. Becausethe women who've made the biggest impact in music — and in every field — weren't the ones waiting to prove they deserved a seat at someone else's table. They were the ones building their own tables.
And in the process of building, they gave. They shared what they knew. They created the opportunities they wished existed. They made space not just for themselves, but for everyone who came after them.
Think about Nadia Boulanger, who taught an entire generation of composers (including Aaron Copland, Philip Glass, and Quincy Jones) from her Paris apartment and at Fontainebleau. At a time when women composers were largely dismissed and conducting was considered a man's profession, she built her own teaching practice and became one of the most influential musicians of the 20th century. She didn't wait for the conservatory system to make space for her — she created her own space and became the first woman to conduct many of the world's major orchestras.
Or Marin Alsop, who founded her own orchestra (Concordia Orchestra) in New York when she couldn't get conducting opportunities. She didn't wait for permission. She created the platform, shared her vision, and eventually became the first woman to lead a major American orchestra.
Or the musicians right now who are building online teaching studios, creating their own concert series, launching podcasts, writing newsletters, forming collectives — they're not asking if they're "allowed" to do these things. They're just... doing them. Because...
When you give, you gain.
When you share what you know instead of hoarding it until you feel "qualified enough," you build authority. When you create opportunities instead of waiting for them, you build agency. When you make space for others, you build community. And all of that comes back to you multiplied.
This was exactly the core of my conversation on the Fearless Artist podcast. We talked about shifting the question from "Will I make it?" to "How will I make it work?" — which is such a powerful mindset reframe.
Because "Will I make it?" keeps you stuck waiting for someone else's verdict. It's proving energy.
"How will I make it work?" puts you in the driver's seat. It's sharing energy. It's building-your-own-table energy.
We also talked about a simple but transformative exercise for how you introduce yourself as an artist. Instead of just saying "I'm a clarinetist" or "I'm a violinist," you expand it:
"I'm a clarinetist who also...""I'm a violinist and..."
Suddenly you're not just your instrument anymore. You're a performer, teacher, creator, collaborator, advocate, entrepreneur — the full picture of who you actually are as an artist. You're not shrinking yourself to fit someone else's narrow definition. You're building your own table and inviting people to see all of you.
That's the shift. That's what the women who came before us understood. That's what "Give to Gain" really means.
And here's my question for you this week, in honor of Women's History Month and all the table-builders who came before us:
What's one thing you're going to share this week instead of prove?
Maybe it's posting about your work. Maybe it's reaching out to collaborate with someone. Maybe it's finally launching that project you've been sitting on. Maybe it's teaching something you know to someone who needs it.
Whatever it is — share it. Don't wait for permission. Build your table!
xo,
Ixi
P.S. If you're ready to build that table with a community of musicians who are doing the same thing, that's exactly what we're creating in the Thrive Membership. We're in the middle of a revamp with monthly activities, new guest experts, and more opportunities to share, gather, and learn from each other.
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training modules and ongoing resources
A system built on alignment, connection and flow.
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